Baby loss is something many people go through, yet it is rarely spoken about openly. It can feel like a hidden grief, one that comes with so many unanswered questions, so much pain, and so few spaces to talk about it honestly.

For us, it was not just one loss, but three. Each time came with hope, excitement, and dreams of what life could have been like with the child we were expecting. Each time those dreams were taken away, leaving behind heartbreak and silence.

Even with our son, who is such a gift to us, loss was part of his story too. He was originally a twin, but we lost his sibling early in the pregnancy. That mix of joy and loss at the same time is something that has stayed with us. It showed me how deeply miscarriage can shapes families, even when a child is born.

The emotional impact of baby loss is profound. It is not only about the physical loss but also about the hopes and futures that are suddenly gone. Women experience the physical and emotional trauma in a way that is visible to others. For men, the pain often remains unseen.

Too often, men feel like they have to be the strong one, the steady presence, the supporter. That expectation can push men to hide how deeply they are hurting. The truth is that baby loss affects men too. The grief is real, the loss is real, and the silence can make it even harder to carry.

There is no right or wrong way to respond to baby loss. For some, it might mean talking openly, for others it might mean taking time to process in private. What matters is recognising that everyone involved has the right to grieve, to feel, and to be supported.

We need to do more to make space for men in these conversations. Baby loss is not just a women’s issue, it is a family issue. The pain touches both parents, even if society does not always see it that way.

By talking about it more openly, by sharing experiences, and by acknowledging that men suffer too, we can begin to break the silence. Baby loss affects us all, and no one should feel they have to face that grief alone.

For a long time, I carried the grief and pain in silence, you don’t have too.

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